tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30372384.post2132304074791354334..comments2023-10-30T07:52:05.970-05:00Comments on Anactoria: Anactoriahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17876087690964196791noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30372384.post-88784144518666875272007-10-03T04:17:00.000-05:002007-10-03T04:17:00.000-05:00You got to see William Gibson? I am truly envious....You got to see William Gibson? I am truly envious. <BR/><BR/>Your comments on accepting that you can't please, or be liked by, everyone made me think of this quote from Lost in Translation: "The more you know who you are, and what you want, the less you let things upset you."<BR/><BR/>I realized long ago that you can't please everyone. It doesn't bother me anymore.Yônâhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07174010179714185216noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30372384.post-64369245668239855582007-09-30T16:21:00.000-05:002007-09-30T16:21:00.000-05:00I think that, at first, it can be hard to cope wit...I think that, at first, it can be hard to cope with rejection, so we resort to these rationalizations. In time, when the memory of the hurt fades it gets easier to be honest about it. Sometimes you just have to give people a little time.<BR/><BR/>Wow, Chaim, you get around! Didn't you comment over at Salvaged by Wanderings recently?Elliothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08144417439505262113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30372384.post-40290211742047886862007-09-30T00:21:00.000-05:002007-09-30T00:21:00.000-05:00I am hearing you loud and clear on your last point...I am hearing you loud and clear on your last point. I can vividly remember when I first had the realization that not everyone is going to like me. I was 15 years old. Maybe it came late, who knows? I've never reallly talked about it with anyone, and have never had a chancee to compare ages.<BR/><BR/>It took me a LOT LONGER to finally stop trying to <I>make</I> people like me even after it had been established that they didn't. I became a chronic "people pleaser" aand I didn't even realize it until perhaps as late as 20.<BR/><BR/>Rationalizing things as "this person doesn't like me because they are a bad person" is a behavior I have always associated with childhood. It starts in early childhood, and I think it ends at different times for different people. Regardless, retaining it as an adult, and wearing it on your sleeve as your friend does, well.... I don't think it's an attractive quality for that peerson to have. I hope your friend realizes this at some point.<BR/><BR/>For what it's worth, I think this person they were trying to befriend was off-base as well. I appreciate it when people send a clear signal when they aren't interested, in stead of trying to "send a message," and I try hard to extend the same courtesy, though it isn't always easy.Chaimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03125458216949949103noreply@blogger.com